I've read discussions on Internet Discussion Boards that were titled: ''what do you notice first"
Some of the answers:
* The eyes
* The teeth
* The legs
* The shape
* The mouth
* The clothes
* The hair
* The Ankles
* The Feet
* The hands
* The neck
* various other body parts
Someone will almost always chime in and tell everyone that they were lusting and therefore sinning. That is incorrect thinking. You see, maybe you fall in love with a person's personality, but the first thing you notice about a person is a body part or the covering of a body part. Yup I did say that.
I know guys who are attracted to a long slender neck, others are attracted to long slender fingers or short slender fingers. Some look at their ankles and calfs, while others look at their teeth, their smile, their eyes, their lips and sometimes its different things.
I remember meeting a girl once who had such beautiful blue eyes that you could not help but look into them. While you weren't lusting, those eyes held your attention. You'd make excuses to go talk to her and look into those eyes.
Lust? Nope!
Attraction? YUP!
You know the funny part, I cannot even remember her name. I just remember those eyes.
Ever met someone with a perfect smile, perfect teeth and a perfect complection? Guaranteed, it will catch your attention. It will attract you.
I have a friend that the girls liked to talk to, they said he had dreamy ''bed room '' eyes. I am not 100% sure what they meant, but they loved to look into his eyes. When they got to know him, they realized he was a creep. *shrug* (hey, creeps need friends too)
The first things I noticed about my wife was her smile and her eyes; the second thing is something was that she laughs at my jokes. When I first saw my wife, I thought *WOW*! She caught my eye and I watched her out of the corner of my eye.
Was I lusting?
No! I was attracted and I kept my eye on her, and did my best to find a way to talk to her. It was her physical appearance that caught my eye. It was her personality that captured my heart.
Did a sexual thought enter my mind when we were dating? Yes as a matter of fact there was a sexual thought that entered my mind. That is normal in the male - female relationship.
Was it lust?
No it was not.
Was it a sin?
No it was not, mere temptation is not the sin, the sin is action upon the temptation.
We tend to equate attraction as lust, temptation as lust and lust as lust. That is just not the case.
Attraction is a normal reaction, and is part of life. You will be attracted to the opposite sex. That is how God created us. Mere attraction is not sinful. God did not ordain sin. Temptation is not sin! It is the suggestion to sin. You will be tempted; but the object is to not give in to temptation.
